I had a conversation with my daughter recently. I paused to swish the topic around and around. She cannot sit with herself. Just sit. Pause. Rejoice in her being. I believe this is an epidemic in much of humanity. It drives many to distractions. Anything to not stop and hear the needs of the heart and the soul. Busy-ness is our compulsion.Read More
We traded in our cell phones for a cocktail, said no thanks to selfies, indulged instead in eye contact and our memories. We didn’t search up our favourite IG accounts to share and snap photos of the most amazing food. We simply enjoyed each moment and allowed ourselves to forget that someone may want to reach us.Read More
Why do we share honour? Simply, because we are all human, made beautifully, made well. We all have unique stories of hardship, growing, rising, breaking and achievement, but at the end of the day and since the beginning of time, we have all shared the fundamental quality of humanness with one another.Read More
Something I have been experiencing a lot lately is this thing called dress rehearsing tragedy. Brene Brown defines it this way: “imagining something bad happening when in reality nothing is wrong.”
Dress rehearsing tragedy is so sneaky. It can show up as anxiety or dread, but before you know it turns into a full blown way of thinking or a pattern.Read More
My heart is pounding writing this , self doubt grips my chest like a chain and yanks me down into a hole of dark. My brain rushes thoughts in and out as fast as it can, as if to distract me from recovery. I am wondering what I need, I ask myself the questions to bring me back. ‘Tammy, what do you need in this moment?’. To hide my heart says. To isolate. To never leave my house. To quit everything. Don’t let anyone know how I’m feeling.Read More
I used to think of slowing down as sleeping in or having no plans, which is important too. What I now realize is that I can intentionally carve out time for slowness. This way I can attend to my family, my business, myself, and not feel anxious and overwhelmed all the time. I am ‘building my house’ in a way that is sustainable.Read More
Something that has been on my mind lately as I painstakingly attempt to set boundaries with friends and working relationships is that "Daring to set boundaries is about having the courage to love ourselves, even when we risk disappointing others." -Daring Greatly, Brene Brown.
Using the word "painstaking" perhaps seems a little dramatic, but boundaries do require immense effort, practice and compassion and it just seems to fit the feeling. I don't think this should be interpreted as painful, or begrudgingly setting boundaries.
I’ve been the most limited in relationships that I felt I didn’t belong. I still am. Oddly enough, I’ve experienced this largely in both family & faith relationships. Where you are ‘supposed’ to belong.Read More
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None of the words seemed to be a perfect fit, but they are all encased in what we’re doing at The Well. Rather than choosing one to label ourselves with, we are choosing them all, the same WHOLE approach we use to understand each and every woman.
Complex, Whole, Beautiful in Her Design.Read More
We’re taking a new approach to September’s WellFed. We are creating a distraction free environment, focused instead on connecting to ourselves, our bodies, and each other.Read More
I start from a place of suspicion. I do not assume the best in people. No, that’s not true…I do not look for the best in the right people. I work from a posture of resistance. I collect proof to reinforce my preconceived determinations. Anything that will validate my belief in someone, prove me right, check my boxes.Read More
I want to give every dancer the gift of seeing themselves in all their beauty while they do what they love to do.Read More
When I was a little girl, I would lie on my back and stare up at the sky. I remember feeling so carefree, hope filled, abundant in all things. I was just so happy to be me. Content. Of course, I knew none of this at the time. It’s only upon reflection that you can yearn to feel so...effortless. I had it then, I lost it somewhere. I cannot tell you exactly where.Read More